Post-Referendum Madness

brexit_-_Google_Search_-_2015-08-18_22.25.30It’s no good, I just have to say it: the country has gone bloody mad since the referendum on whether to leave or stay in the EU. I’m not talking about the closely run result which was a slim victory for Brexit, but instead the reactions of people I thought I knew (and some who should know better). I’ll admit, I voted for out, but very reluctantly and only after a great deal of thought and research. I’m sure that the majority of those who voted to stay in did the same amount of research and thinking but just came to a different conclusion.

For many of us, the decision was a hard one, made no easier by politicians from both sides twisting facts until they squealed, lying and playing the politics of fear. To be honest, my thinking was: ‘we’re damned if we do, and we’re damned if we don’t’. Even after I’d voted (by post), I was still wavering and wondering whether I’d made the right decision. And I know if I’d voted in, I would have had the same misgivings. I know I’m not on my own in this.

And so, today, after the result was announced I was pretty shocked to see some of the reactions to the result on social media. Not just from random commentators, but from friends and people who I look up to as influencers. Now I know for some people it’s a very emotional and sad day and I respect that. I also respect their right to express that publicly. What I do not accept is some of the insults thrown at those who voted out. Among the nice little line-up were: bigots; racists; naive; right wing; you have destroyed the country/future/children’s future etc, etc, etc. I for one am certainly not any of those things. I have a feeling that there are quite a few things being said out there in the heat of the moment that may be regretted later.

Even worse were similar comments from those ‘influencers’ – I’m naming no names but I include people in the online entrepreneur/self help business and the indie author business who wrote these things on their public pages. One of these people called Brexiters ‘thick’. I left a nice little reply telling him he had great people skills and wondering just how many of his followers he had just insulted (and potentially lost). Another accused ‘out’ voters of being old people and not thinking of the children. Talk about emotional blackmail!

On the other hand I have seen many Brexiters this morning crowing about their victory and making it sound that being independent guarantees us a rosy future. It doesn’t. Wake up Britain – becoming a stable, independent economic country is going to take work, grit and standing together. No amount of boasting, hand wringing or insults is going to achieve that. Done is done. Let us all take a bloody deep breath, start being nice to each other and get on with it. End of.



  1. Thank you for everything you have said here, my sentiment’s too. Nothing has changed since we won the vote to leave the EU. Cars are still driving along out road. Supermarkets are full of consumer’s. TV programmes and the internet are still up and running. Lights and gas are still connected to our homes. Mobile phones and landlines are still working. I really can’t feel or see any difference. Only one thing I’m worried about is the unethical ways the media is resorting to. Really quite abhorrent and disgusting.

    • Absolutely Mary – the sky hasn’t fallen!! We just need the politicians and the media to show a bit of ethical behaviour and positive thinking and I’m sure the rest of the country will eventually come round. We all need to stand up to the racist bullies that have suddenly popped out of the woodwork though.

  2. Well said Jules, we travelled, studied, worked abroad, bought houses abroad and lived the ex-pat life before the EU it just meant things had to be done differently. Things need to settle and then yes, it will take as you said ‘grit and working together’.

    • Thanks Tyger. I honestly can’t see much changing in the long run although in the short run we will have problems – mainly caused by a lack of decent leadership from any party. The devisiveness of the whole thing has been depressing though, and until we can all reconcile and work together, things won’t get much better.

  3. You sum it up perfectly, Jules. If I’d been a bit braver (and wasn’t getting late on this deadline) I’d have tried to put it into words, but you’ve done it better than I could have. For me it was touch and go until I got into the booth and picked up the pencil. After a hell of a lot of listening to reports, reading comments, thinking hard, worrying about the future, I picked the same option you did. Not a spur of the moment thing and no, nothing to do with immigration. My consolation was my daughter, who did her own researches and came to the same conclusion as me. She was only angry that, because she’s 16, she couldn’t actually vote. But since the result, I’ve been off FB and other media. Why? Because I get depressed seeing so many friends I generally respect who spread the worst comments imaginable about “xenophobes”, “morons”, and other less tasteful descriptions of – well, me.

    • Your reasons and your hesitancy even at the point of voting sounds exactly like me. I’ve muted quite a few people on FB, not because they’ve voted differently, but they just keep on and on along the same lines as you described. And yes, it is depressing when they are people who are friends and who generally act in a reasonable and courteous manner toward others. Even worse when their name is a ‘brand’, so to speak. It’s Ok to have an opinion, but not to trash everyone who voted differently. I wonder how many people have now turned away from those ‘brands’because of the ranting? Very sad.

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